A Psychology Today “expert” (an unnamed female sex therapist) advises sex therapy for flashers:
“Exhibitionists tend to be like gamblers. They know that the odds are stacked against them, but they think that if they just keep doing it, they’ll hit that elusive jackpot. I would venture to guess that the odds of ‘winning’ are even worse for exhibitionists. Finding that one in a zillion woman who will be aroused by an unplanned encounter with a man flashing his genitals at her is nearly impossible.”
COMMENT:
It appears that this sex therapist has treated all manner of exhibitionists, ‘from ministers to Air Force pilots’, yet still knows little, if anything, about exhibitionism.
Research has established that exhibitionists DO NOT expose themselves for the sake of ‘winning’ a woman. Indeed research shows that if the woman responded by initiating some sort of sexual advance, the exhibitionist would run the other way.
It is just this idiotic mis-information peddled by self-styled experts that has led to a totally confused understanding of this subject by the public. For more information, read the book: “The Exhibitionist”.
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Her article went on to relate the following incident:
“One night about fifteen years ago, I was walking to my car after leaving my San Francisco office. I had stayed late to complete paperwork, so it was about 8 p.m. I was going to be on a national TV show the next morning and was deep in thought about what I was going to say — and I was exhausted.
“Since one of San Francisco’s few shortcomings is parking, I was walking about two blocks uphill into Pacific Heights (an elegant area) to my parked car. Nearly to my car, a BMW sedan pulled up next to me. A 30-ish, reasonably attractive man was driving. I expected him to roll down his window and ask where such-and-such singles bar was since there were a few nearby.
“Instead, he got out of his car. He was wearing a white cotton men’s business shirt, a necktie, dark shoes and dark sox. That was his complete attire. He reached down grabbed his penis, swung it around in a circle from its base and with eager excitement said, “What do you think of this?”
“I tiredly sighed and said, “Not much.” He jumped back into his car and, probably with great disappointment, drove off. Had I been more alert, I might have reached into my purse to fetch a business card to suggest that he consider making an appointment during office hours.”
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It is of interest that this sex therapist did not report the above exposure incident and that, as far as we’re concerned, is the only sensible thing she’s done in connection with exhibitionism.
It is also of interest that the exhibitionist in this instance drove a BMW, wore good clothes and was ‘reasonably attractive’. This puts paid to the myth that exhibitionists are drop-outs and degenerates.
