masturbate and run!
posted by East Villager on ihollaback.org, Dec 4, 2010
I moved to NYC last spring and, in between apt viewings, was grabbing a slice of pizza with my mother at the Two Boots in the East Village. We were in a booth seat and I noticed a creepy guy outside the window on a bike staring at me for what felt like forever. I finally craned my neck to see what he was doing and caught him with his penis out, masturbating while staring at me. I reacted by standing up and immediately telling the manager of the pizza joint what was going one. He rushed to the door but the guy had already taken off on his bike. (His strategy of course is to do this on the bike so that he can get away ASAP after being caught). The only positive was the amazing manager of the pizza place who apologized and told me that if I ever saw that guy again around there to let him know and he’d regulate. I felt very violated and my hands were shaking and I was so angry. Not to mention my poor mother was in from out of town and this was her first impression of the East Village. Not cool! It was so violating. I ended up finding a place in the East Village and live here full time now and have seen this creep on the bike riding around since…he definitely lurks in the neighborhood.
COMMENT:
East Villager was “violated”. Dear me!
Isn’t it amazing how easily these gals on ihollaback can be violated?! Just seeing something they don’t want to see is enough to violate them.
I mean, f**k me, I’m all the time being “violated”. Every time I drive these days someone violates my space and cuts in front of me! F**k me! I am now going to have to see my psychiatrist, I feel so violated!
There are two kinds of violation: real and imaginary. Real violation happens when a woman is raped. There are consequences; she will suffer and she may well be marked for life. It is REAL! Or, for example, violation (breakage) of the law may put you into prison. That too is REAL.
And then there is the imaginary violations which, I suggest, East Villager is prone to. It is built upon a “sense of rightness”, which a person identifies with, and anything that deviates from this “rightness” is perceived as a violation.
In the case of East Villager, there was no damage, nothing broken, no subsequent suffering (as there would be for a rape victim). She felt affronted, sure, but only because she lived in a hallucinatory, imaginary world and one day she looked out the window and saw the REAL world.
It’s a wake-up call, East Villager. You have two choices (as The Rock said in “Welcome to the Jungle”): choice one, you can stay in your ivory tower and be affronted (or “violated”) for the rest of your life. Choice two, enter the real world. It may not always be to your liking but, hey…it’s a pretty fucking good world! Welcome to the Jungle!
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