weenie waggers
by Kirsten Anderberg (www.kirstenanderberg.com)
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Weenie Waggers. Guys who get off on indecent exposure. As a young girl, I had many an unwanted dick thrust upon my naked eyes, and I was scared. These men chose spots that were isolated, they waited until there was no one else around, they were intimidating and scary, it was verging on rape and you could not tell if you were ABOUT to be raped if you did not get out of there fast. It definitely is more than nudity. I am fine with nakedness and nudity. This is something else. And it is not sexual either. I seriously doubt these men EVER get a reaction of, “Oooh, neat, can we have sex?” from the women these men assault. This is a power move by men on women. Plain and simple.
The first assault of this kind that I remember was when I was in junior high, walking home from school. A boy would not stop following me, then walked right next to me, then whipped out his penis and I was terrified, I said NOTHING, and quickly walked, with him next to me, right into the neighborhood store and went straight to the store manager for help. The boy waited outside in the phone booth for me. The manager went out and talked to the boy and he left. I was fearful of that route, and penises, from that point on.
As I entered my late teens and early twenties, I would have this weenie wagging occur regularly near me. One time it was on the back of a Metro bus in Seattle. Another time I was walking through a Seattle park and it happened. I even went to thrift stores and it happened! Men are just waving their dicks all over the place!
This whole thing turned radically for me once at the Vancouver Music Festival. Some women friends and I were bathing topless in water…and these men began to oggle us from the banks, sexually. We all decided to SCARE the men. So we RAN AT THE MEN, TOPLESS, SHRIEKING LIKE BLACK PANTHERS, LOOKING CRAZY AS CAN BE! The men ran in fear, I am not kidding! It was incredibly empowering and I started thinking. You know, these weenie waggers are very secretive and they do it so that only one, or a few, women can see their wares.
So THAT must be the point of weakness in all this. So I decided to start punching holes in the anonymity of weenie waggers.
The first one I remember vividly was a thrift store assault. I was standing at the register with my friends. All of a sudden, one of the dressing room curtains opened and a man looked at me. Next thing he opened the curtain a titch, just at penis level, and showed me his dick. Well, I laughed LOUDLY, “Hey look at that guy in the dressing room jacking off!” The curtain closed quickly. We all had a good laugh. Then about 5 minutes later, he opens the dressing room curtain and says loudly, “I was not!” And everyone burst into laughter again. VICTORY! I left feeling empowered instead of assaulted.
In another thrift store in downtown Seattle, I opened a dressing room door for a second to use it. In that brief second it took me to open the door, the guy inside turned toward me and jacked off. I told my friend and my friend told me to tell the staff. I did that and the woman clerk FLEW INTO ACTION. She was an inspiration. She knocked on the dressing room door loudly yelling “I TOLD YOU YOU CANNOT DO THAT IN HERE ANYMORE!!” and she grabbed him by his collar and literally threw him onto the curb. She was a big woman and I was impressed. But she also reinforced in me that it is the FEAR that gives the men the power in this. And the minute you are not afraid, but rather ANNOUNCE this behavior, these guys are WAY vulnerable! The power shifts within SECONDS and HARD!
Another one I remember vividly was when I was walking to the co-op through Ravenna Park in Seattle. I started hearing the rustling of leaves near me, purposefully trying to get my attention. I looked up the hill near me, and there was a guy, completely naked except for tennis shoes, leaning on a tree, jacking off towards me, grinning. Unafraid anymore, I said to him, “Hey, I have some rather large dyke friends who would love to see you do that. Can you wait a few minutes while I go and get them? Please, wait right there and I’ll be right back.” When I returned, he was gone.
I know of a man in Seattle who has had several indecent exposure charges. He told me in 1995 that he has been charged three times for this. He told me the first charge was because he was a few feet over the legal line at a nude beach. He then said his second ticket was because a bunch of teen girls in a school bus pulled up next to his car, one teen flashed him, lifting her top he says, and so, of course, logically, he whipped out his dick and waved it at the girls. He explains this as if this would be ANYONE’S normal reaction. Well, the bus of girls called the police and they arrived at his door to charge him.
Another incident I remember was once I was walking on the path by the San Lorenzo River in Santa Cruz and I could see this guy, from my higher vantage point, trying to position himself to weenie wag for two women who were quickly approaching him. So I just screamed at the top of my lungs, “Hey everyone, look at that guy wagging his dick in front of those two women…” He grabbed his erect dick and tried to jam it in his pants as EVERYONE on the trail looked at him. He ran into the car lot, still trying to jam his huge dick into his pants while everyone watched him trying to retreat. Everyone was roaring with laughter. This is the way these things should end, not with women afraid and intimidated and feeling assaulted against their will!
Many men have been angered when I outted them loudly. For some reason, women have been silent in this realm too often out of fear. Look, WE are not the ones vulnerable, when men are NAKED IN PUBLIC AND JACKING OFF. THEY ARE! First off, they are naked or have their genitals exposed, so they are an easy target. I have found if you are LOUD and IMMEDIATELY SAY AT THE TOP OF YOUR LUNGS AS LOUDLY AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE, “HEY LOOK AT THAT GUY JACKING OFF TRYING TO SCARE WOMEN” then the dynamic of power IMMEDIATELY shifts from the man to the woman. Instantaneousy. As soon as the men find out you are not going to silently play a victim, but instead are going to turn that mother on its side and make HIM the vulnerable one, they will RUN away, and I am NOT kidding! TRY IT! I encourage all women to turn this stupid power play on its head each and every time you encounter it. I have not had a one weenie wagging where I have not turned it into trauma for the weenie wagger. The men count on our fear to keep silent. So just ANNOUNCING IT LOUDLY usually ends it quickly. And you will end up leaving feeling empowered, instead of assaulted. It is truly a great feeling to not fear weenie waggers anymore. I actually look forward to our encounters now, as I ALWAYS win!
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